As you strive to care for your child, can you and your family identify with any of the concerns below?
Are you temporarily parenting a grandchild and struggling to know how to deal with the difficulties of supporting them in the midst of uncertainties?
Are you parenting a child that is caught in the middle of custody battles?
Is your child experiencing behavior problems that you believe may be connected to their adoption?
Are you struggling to feel connected to your adopted child?
Are you fearful that what your child experienced prior to adoption may be impacting them in the present?
Do you feel like your adoptive child is personable with strangers but antagonistic toward you?
Do you feel rejected by your adopted child?
A Journeys Counselor Can Help
Giving support and nurture to the children who need it is often a welcome change in our lives, and with new changes come new challenges. Adoption and foster care related issues can be incredibly confusing, complicated, and stressful for families. The majority of foster and adoptive parents want the absolute best for the children in their care but may feel uncertain about the best ways to offer support. The professionals at Journeys Counseling Center are experienced in supporting families that are facing the challenges of foster care and adoption. Through the process of counseling, these therapists will seek to help your child increase a sense of safety, stability, and attachment. They may help you and your child explore ways that emotions manifest themselves in their bodies, and utilize play, art, or story-telling as a means to express emotions. In addition, we are able to walk with your child through a grieving process, allowing him/her to acknowledge and grieve losses that are associated with the unique situation of adoption. We are committed to helping you, as parents, understand the internal world of your child, giving you tools to set healthy limits on your child’s angry or raging behaviors and discussing community supports that may help you feel less alone.
You May Have Some Questions, Such As...
“Will talking about things make my child feel worse? Shouldn’t they just forget about the past and focus on how great things are now?”
It can be very tempting for parents to want their child to let go of the past and enjoy the present circumstances. The ultimate goal for your adopted or foster child is that he/she will be able to integrate their past experiences into a sense of wholeness for the present and future. The reality is that these children may still be experiencing internal feelings of loss, shame, anger, or sadness that may be difficult for them to adequately express. Memory is stored in sensory and emotional forms, as well as verbal, meaning that children may be internally experiencing emotions from a time before they were even able to talk. As a result, it can be helpful for your child to uncover and explore these parts of themselves in order to fully engage in a relationship with you.
We generally recommend scheduling a initial assessment with a Journeys counselor to evaluate what your child or family's specific needs are, as well as determining best options for treatment and more precise answers to the questions you may have about the process. The Journeys team strives to provide you with the best fit professionally, and will happily direct you to the counselor with the best personality, expertise and approach for your family.
You can click on the suggested therapist below to schedule a consultation or check out our team to connect with a therapist that's right for your situation.
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